HOPE FOR THE DAY
October 23, 2006

One of the most difficult parts about grief is trying to
find an answer to the question, "Why me?".  Life can be
brutally unfair, and grief is no respecter of persons. When
we least expect it, loss can come knocking at our door
only to leave us feeling totally exhausted, shocked, and
alone in our pain.  Nobody is ever prepared for the feelings
of loss that accompany the death of someone we love.

Even though "why" is the one question that nags us day
and night, I don't think there will ever be a way of finding
the answer to that question.  At least not an answer that
is to our satisfaction.  Life is very unfair, and because of
that, bad things do happen to good people-people who
deserve only the best in life!

When pain from loss enters our world that was once so
innocent, it can knock us off our feet for a while.  Our
world as we once knew it no longer exists.  We must now
learn how to live in a place that is completely foreign to
us.  We must learn to speak a new language and adapt to
new and different ways of doing things. 

There is a tendency for us to long for life to be as it once
was before death entered our world; yet the "normal" we
once knew cannot ever be the same again.  The life we now
have has been transformed by loss.  We heal by feeling
what we need to feel when we need to feel it.  We heal
by allowing our broken hearts to be embraced by hope.
We heal by believing that life is worth living-even when
we don't have all of the answers.  We heal because we believe
that life will one day feel joy again!  --Clara Hinton